March 04, 2008

on 'growing up'...

Today il'l just let meredith do the talking for me...because she pretty much sums up almost exactly whatever i want to say on it :)
yeah,ive been watching reruns again...sigh!

so here is how she puts it (and i couldent agree more)...

"I've heard that it’s possible to grow up, I've just never met anyone who’s actually done it. Without parents to defy, we break the rules we make for ourselves. We throw tantrums when things don’t go our way. We whisper secrets with our best friend, in the dark. We look for comfort where we can find it. And we hope against all logic, against all experience, like children, we never give up hope."

"After careful consideration and many sleepless nights, here’s what I've decided. There's no such thing as a grown-up. We move out, we move away from our families. But the basic insecurities, the fears and all the old wounds just grow up with us. Just when you think life has forced you to truly become an adult, your mother says something like that. We get bigger, taller, older. But, for the most part, we're still a bunch of kids, running around the playground, trying desperately to fit in."

"You know when you were a little kid and you believed in fairy tales? That fantasy of what your life would be -- white dress, prince charming who’d carry you away to a castle on a hill. You’d lie in your bed at night and close your eyes and you had complete and utter faith. Santa clause, the tooth fairy, prince charming -- they were so close you could taste them. But eventually you grow up and one day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears. Most people turn to the things and people they can trust. But the thing is, it’s hard to let go of that fairy tale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope and faith that one day they would open their eyes and it would all come true."

"In some ways we grow up; we have families... we get married, divorced... but for the most part we still have the same problems that we did when we were fifteen. No matter how much we grow taller, grow older, we are still forever stumbling... forever wondering, forever... young."

"There comes a point in your life, when you’re officially an adult. Suddenly, you’re old enough to vote, drink and engage in other adult activities. Suddenly, people expect you to be responsible, serious, a grown-up. We get taller, we get older. But do we ever really grow up?"



Lukkydivs said...

no, we dont really grow up in true sense. 22 years and i still act like a 2 year old most of the times!!

Blog Boy said...

grown up is a subjective term.
nice one Pri.
Thanks for sharing..

Lena said...

and some people seem to be grown-up from the moment they were born.
But in a way i believe we shouldnt grow up. As long as we have a part of a kid in ourselves we are truly alive.

Mez said...

veens dedication for u..come n see!

maverick said...

lol..nice post..i used to watch scrubs for a while totally out of touch..

Pri said...

@ divya
yaa ur right...nobody ever really grows up though very often we may seem to have :)

@ blogboy
it sure is...i agree

@ lena
well said lena...growing up is not all that fun as we thought it to be :)

@ mez
thanks for notifying...
i see its march but the blogcrush post is still rocking...feb chala gaya magar pyaar nahi ;)
keep rocking cupid!lol!!

@ maverick
thanks...used to like watching 'scrubs' too...
meredith grey is from 'grey's anatomy' though :)

IncorrigibleV said...

hmm well if meredith is to be believed no we don't....and i agree with divya, 21 goin on 22 and i'm still no older than 5 :P

Cosmic Joy said...

And I could'nt agree more with meridith and you :) Makes one wonder and introspect.

Cosmic Joy said...

And I could'nt agree more with meridith and you :) Makes one wonder and introspect.

radiohead said...

I can use this when I am 35 ;)

but yes .. we never grow up, I don't, I haven't and its sad sometimes. I wish I was more mature.

Anonymous said...

I cannot agree more with whatever you've quoted..its like the writer read my mind before writing the script or maybe this is something that is there in everyone's mind one way or the other way:|

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Anonymous said...

u still have not accepted my friendship request? :(

Anonymous said...

im not going to eat u...grow up dr pri ;)
why didnt dr pri do the talking in this post instead of dr meredith? :(

Solitaire said...

This is so true.

Don't you see that on blogosphere itself?

Someone breaks up with someone and cries, a natural reaction to loss like a baby cried when her father abandoned her.

Someone says something offensive and they sulk, like they did when their sibling complained against them.

Someone gets friendly with someone else, and they become jealous, like how they did when their first crush was kissed by another boy.

Keshi said...

** We get taller, we get older. But do we ever really grow up?"

Never! I love this post Pri..u nailed it.


Anonymous said...

"we break the rules we make for ourselves. We throw tantrums when things don’t go our way. We whisper secrets with our best friend, in the dark. We look for comfort where we can find it. And we hope against all logic, against all experience, like children, we never give up hope."

Spot on. This are the words that sum up everything. staying away from home , managing everything on own and cioping on totally on ourselves, we form a strong support system for ourselves doc....

my posts waiting for ur comments dudette!!

Anonymous said...

Hey are you ok now ? Last post was a bit off colored one....hope u feel good soon!!!

Mez said...

hehe..u better off than those who dint get any. be happy for

Pri said...

@ vands
yaa...u rnt alone...we all are still kids in a way :)

@ cosmic joy
u said it!!
introspection...retrospection...sometimes helps a lot :)

@ anuj
well wishing for something we cant have is kiddish too in a way isnt it? :D and we all seem to do that thus further proving the point...
make sure u have this piece with u when ur 35...:D

Pri said...

@ an illusion
well i guess all of us at one point or other have wished to get more grow up...and all of us at some point or other have given up too...:)
guess we can never shoo away the 'kid' in us ...

@ solitaire
exactly!! guess we cant help it...we just never seem to 'mature' enough :)

@ keshi
thanks girl! its fun having the 'kid spirit' at times though :)

@ ashu
yeah, we do and somewhere we hope that support system dosent break down ever..and when it does, we break down too...sulk..crib...cry...just like kids :(
we never grow up afterall!!
coming around to ur post soon...
hey and thanks for asking..was a lil disturbed the other alrite now :)

take care!

@ mez
hmm yaa...ur right...*me is unpacking my suitcase again* :p

Ankur said...

Meredith, if I am not wrong then he was an english novelist and poet. His famous works include Modern Love and The Egoist.
R we talkin abt someone else here??

Sam said...

do we ever grow up??? hoenstly what or who is a grown up???
I've seen people way older than me throw tantrums like kids... so much so for growing up!!!
as for me... well.. i refuse to grow up!!! hmm!!

Sam said...

btw, u cool now??

Pri said...

@ ankur
i googled to find out about the meredith u talking about (shamelessly admit had never heard of him before :p)and i gathered u were talking about 'george meredith' while i was referring to 'dr meredith grey' from 'greys anatomy' a popular hospital related series on television :D
u must catch up with it sometime if u get a chance too...think ul like it too :)

@ sam
lol i hope u werent referring to me when u spoke about tantrums...heehee
sorry about the other day...was a lil disturbed...fine now :)

Ankur said...


hehe, i guess i shld be shameful. :P
but will definitely will watch, The Greys Anatomy, and i have heard of it :D
Currently i m watchin The band of brothers, a story based on american paratroopers during the 2nd world war, produced and directed by Tom Hanks.
My favs are Prison Break and 24 and i hope even u will like prison break(though if u can sustain some violence). Its amazing.

Coming back to the post, will take some time to write abt this post as u fill my mind with Modern Love.

Anonymous said...


I think she talks my mind :)

I am a kid.. yaar!

no silly comments for a change!

When people tell you to grow up, tell them you are a grown up kid now.. does that help?

do i make sense.

btw PRI, I read your last post ad for a whole 5 minutes was thinking my eyes had gne bad or yur template is all screwed up... I couldnt find the comment button.. shucks :-|

d I guess.. No commenst on that one girl.. take care.. You listen to my dedication for ya.. and I guess yu will be all smiley.. ahh well wait.. my comment will do right?

Anonymous said...

i got this song from Prats, and I gues.. I will pass this on to yu.. jus to cheer yu up for a WHILE at least :)

Pri said...

@ ankur
ive watched 'band of brothers'...but i guess its not really my type :)
havent watched the other two...maybe il'l catch up with them sometime...thanks!
///will take some time to write abt this post as u fill my mind with Modern Love.///
is 'george meredith' so addicting?? hmm...havent read any of dunno...

@ veens
thanks a lot dear...loved the song...and yaa ur comments always make me smile...:)
thanks for the dedication on mez blog as well..

Anonymous said...

I sure wish!

Solitaire said...

Its never enough...

Its good to be child-like but not childish. We need to be aware of the distinctions.

The Furobiker said...

grow up docc

Pri said...

@ veens
there! u got me smiling again :D

@ solitaire
yes i totally agree...some ppl tend to forget the difference :)

@ abhishek khanna
look who's talkin...heehee...
tell me one good reason why i should listen to u :p

Ankur said...

Every war based series/movie is my cup of tea though, not coz of violence but the strategies. :)
Still i prescribe
Rx Prison Break
Its one of the most interesting among the lot, a lot of suspense, well organised, superb acting and amazingly directed. I guess u will love it.
Yes the work of George is gr8. Even Oscar Wilde has said that George is inspiration and one of the most favourate novelist. Modern Love is a collection of poems, and it was written on the failure of his first marriage. If poetry interests you then you can try.

coming to ur post, its beautifully said. Disagreement lies in the fact that we do really ever grow up?, yes, we grow up but not with the same speed as we think we are. We grow up by looking at the past and learning from the experiences. We grow up by learning the fact that at the age of 15, we were kids. We grow as children even, understanding the nuances of life.

remaining kids throughout life is a fantasy doc, and if someone says that it isnt growing up, then i give a damn, sayin.. who wants to grow up, i would love to be a kid all my life.